Selamat Hari Raya, Mohon Maaf Zahir dan Batin dari hujung tudung hingga hujung kaki, ikhlas daripada Ateeqa Nasha, sahabatmu yg terkapai2 dalam kejahillan, kekhilafan dan kehinaan tetapi sangat2 bersyukur atas anugerah ukhuwwah fisabilillah kurniaNya yg tak semua dapat.
statement 'Maaf Zahir dan Batin' mmg tak lekang pnye lah masa puasa dan raya..especially raya.
it is indeed just a figure of speech. kalo tak raye, takde la kite nk mintak maaf kn. maybe jarang. like they say 'Sorry seems to be the hardest word'. bg contoh eh, kite tahu kite ade ngupat someone...tapi kite mintak maaf on the spot kat org tu. dlm hati dah terdetik buat dosa dan kene mintak maaf. tapi tunggu raya lah..tak lah segan sgt nk mintak maaf. so bile raya tiba, 'Maaf Zahir dan Batin' pon dipintalah kat org tu... means, they would know they have asked for forgiveness from the person sbb dia dah ckp 'Maaf Zahir dan Batin' and siap pandai plak tu tambah 'atas segala salah silap, dosa saye sengaja atau tak sengaja'. org tu pon reply 'oh takpe..takde buat salah pon..' atau 'same2lah kite'. haa....who knows best other than you and especially Allah? kawan yg 'ter' or sengaje ngupat tadi pon rase lah legaaa~...now we're back 0-0 seri.
sedar atau tak sedar, itu sebab lah di antara kawan2 kite boleh buat main lagi 'oke takpe lah. aku tunggu raya tahun depan plak mintak maaf kat kau'. what does that statement mean to us? bile Ababil pikirkan balik, astarghfirullahal'adzim. there's a real problem here. sedar tak sedar, diri sendiri pon tersepit dlm kejahilan mcm tu :( saye slalu terlupe..
TO SUM UP, bukanlah tak boleh nk 'Mohon Maaf Zahir dan Batin' dari kawan2 dan family lepas ni, what i'm trying to express is that, say it even when we're not in the holy months of ramadhan and syawal. tp subhanallah, those who ses, would know these two months are indeed the contemplating months, the months of reflection, introspection and muhasabah diri of ourselves! Ramadhan Kareem, especially, it's the month of retraining ourselves, renurturing our nafs. and yes, only our nafs is handful enough to deal with even during the syaitan's temporary departure.
pernah tak burung sekalian terfikir, how much difference do you see yourself in ramadhan compared to the rest of the other months? with the PRESENCE of musuh yg nyata i.e. syaitan laknatullah, and with the ABSENCE of them? kalau lebih kurang same je kite pd bulan ramadhan dan bulan2 lain, then, 'hasutan syaitan' is no excuse. it's all up to us without the influence of syaitan. because they are being locked away... so, it's nafs that we are struggling with and in other times it's worse with the 'help' of the lucifers stirring up our fragile feelings and nafs. wallahualam...
"Ketika malam pertama bulan Ramadhan telah datang, syaitan-syaitan dan jin-jin dibelenggu, pintu-pintu neraka ditutup rapat sehingga tak satu pun yang masih terbuka"
Hadith Riwayat : At-Tarmidzi
berbalik kepada 'Maaf Zahir dan Batin' pnye story, jomlah kite maafkan semua org. inshaAllah hati bersih dgn takdenye grudge and vengeance kat org lain. maafkan someone walaupun susah, it's not about them, it's about us..it's the process of healing and purifying ourself, getting closer to God and sedar attribute kite yg hanyalah sebagai hamba abdiNya yg hina, lemah dan sentiasa perlukan pertolongan dan juga pengampunanNya. kalau kite malu kat org, kite sebenarnye lebih malu kat Allah. kalau kite sombong kat org, sebenarnye kite lebih sombong kat Allah. wallahualam...sungguh, peringatan ini tak lain tak bukan, utk mengingati diri Ababil ni sendiri yg sering alpa...
Maksud Khilaf menurut Wikepedia adalah : "dari bahasa Arab bererti keliru atau salah. Biasanya ini berkaitan dengan perbuatan seseorang."
“I've learned that no matter how good a friend someone is, they're going to hurt you every once in awhile and you must forgive them for that.”
“Most of us can forgive and forget; we just don't want the other person to forget that we forgave”
“One of the secrets of a long and fruitful life is to forgive everybody everything before you go to bed”
“Before you speak, listen.
Before you write, think.
Before you spend, earn.
Before you invest, investigate.
Before you criticize, wait.
Before you pray, forgive.
Before you quit, try.
Before you retire, save.
Before you die, give.”
Sahih International
Kind speech and forgiveness are better than charity followed by injury. And Allah is Free of need and Forbearing.Forgiving others that have done you wrong is good. But the truth is, you forgive yourself when you forgive others. Vengeance is energy consuming. It robs you from all happiness of life and limit your love capability. Forgiving is like releasing something from a cage. You'll feel free yourself and light of new hope will shine upon your soul. Forgetting the forgiven is much better. You learn from it, not remember it as something that pains your soul.
